Choose the Law of Attraction: Think Positive



Choices, choices, choices: there are so many choices we have to make.  Have you ever come home from work & you decide to go out for dinner with your partner?  Your partner asks “Where do you want to go?”  You think for five seconds & say “I can’t make another choice today; it is just too hard.  You choose.”    So often we hear people, especially on TV say “I had no choice?”  Well guess what “We always have a choice”.  Sometimes our options are pretty bad (think about any election, not just the most recent); but, nonetheless we choose.  Not choosing is making a choice; something to remember.  The apathy of choosing to go along with what others decide will still produce consequences for you.

Choice is a huge topic; I’m going to focus solely on the choices we make for ourselves.  An overarching choice we all have, that affects all our other choices, is the choice to think positive or negative.

What thoughts are flowing through your mind right now?

Close your eyes for just one minute: what thoughts did you have?

  • Why am I sitting with my eyes closed when I have so much work to do?
  • I need to make a dentist appointment.
  • I wonder how the kids are really doing in school?
  • Is my boss happy with my work?
  • I need to wash the floor.

Are your thoughts generally positive or negative?  Think hard on that one?  How often do you get frustrated or angry when driving, shopping, interacting with your spouse or children, thinking about work, thinking about your weight?  How often are you happy or excited when you think about your spouse or children, your work, your weight, going for a walk, spring, spending time outdoors, your pet(s), or a vacation?  Whatever your answers; the choice is yours.


 “I strongly believe in the law of attraction.

When I am in a positive mood, I attract positive situations;

vice versa, when I am in a bad mood, more negative things seem to happen”.

Dr. Mario Lehenbauer-Baum





You might not believe in The Law of Attraction; & that is okay.  Sitting & thinking (dreaming) about what I want hasn’t gotten me anywhere; I was taught that hard work is the way to success.  However, I see lots of people working very hard & not getting ahead, not achieving their dreams.  I was very scared when I quit my job as a salesclerk to go back to school to become a nurse.  I had two small children to support & I hadn’t been the best student in high school. But, despite only having a grade 11 education, I made the choice.  I decided I would succeed.  But, I also knew I couldn’t do it alone.   I asked for help from the people I knew loved & supported me, including my ex-husband.  They all assisted me & helped me through my two years of school.  I am very grateful to have had such support.  Though I didn’t know it at the time, I now recognize the choices I made empowered The Law of Attraction & how my positive thoughts helped me to succeed.  I had to work very hard, & sometimes I wasn’t thinking positive; sometimes I cried because it was so hard & I didn’t know if I could make it – but, I pushed those thoughts aside.  I am so glad I did.

Dr. Mario Lehenbauer-Baum stated “I strongly believe in the law of attraction. When I am in a positive mood, I attract positive situations; vice versa, when I am in a bad mood, more negative things seem to happen”.  He goes on to say that circumstances don’t change immediately.  Our now experiences are a result of thoughts & actions taken over the last several years.  I encourage you to follow the link above & read more about The Law of Attraction.


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Think Positive!  Have a positive outlook?  For me that is something like taking a placebo – I don’t care the placebo isn’t a real drug, so long as it works & makes me feel better.  If thinking positive can fool my brain & make me feel good; then I am going to think positive as much as I possibly can.  What do you need to make you feel better?  Could a change of thought or attitude make you feel better?  Would you be willing to give it a try?  I’m all in to try this out.

Can you think positive all the time?  Of course not – remember you are human & that means you are not perfect. Don’t be too hard on yourself.  But, if thinking positively makes you feel better for even a short period of time I think it is worth a try.  This beautiful video came across Facebook today about  Spreading Positivity.  I am sure just watching will bring joy to your heart.

A choice I have made is to give people the benefit of the doubt; sometimes I have gotten hurt, but overall it has served me well.  As a university assistant professor I told my students; “I trust you to not cheat, to be honest; I am not naïve though & I have life experience; so, if you choose to cheat or be dishonest I will not ignore it & there will be consequences”.  There are consequences for all of us, regardless of what choice we make.  I am not perfect by any means – I get angry because I have not bothered to think of the other person: I have blamed others for the way I feel i.e. you hurt me; when I know I can only be hurt if I allow others to hurt me.  Yes, your behaviour surprised me & destroyed my perception of you.  I will grieve for a while; because the vision I had of you was shattered.  But, it was my image, not yours; so I need to get over it.  The positive thought – I had a great time, I have learned, & now I move on to the next adventure of my life.


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What you think about is what you get.  That is the Law of Attraction.  I encourage you to think positively.

I am happy, all is good

I also encourage you to take a moment & read The Desiderata




Steps 9 & 10: Simple Steps to Being an Exceptional Leader

Steps 9 & 10: Simple Steps to Being an Exceptional Leader


We are all leaders.  Some of us are formal leaders, meaning being a leader is part of our work role; some of us informal leaders, the person that others look to for advice & guidance, but are not considered an “official” leader in our work or volunteer role.  Regardless of your roles, someone looks to you as a leader.  To be a good leader takes time & practice; being a leader requires ongoing, life-long learning.  Being a good leader is very similar to being a good person, a good human being; both requiring on-going development & life-long learning.  Are you up for the job?

Step 9: Standing up for what is right: speak up, write a letter or editorial, protest, volunteer

Everyone complains about government, taxes, jobs, & school (just to name a few as the list of complaints we have is long).  Politicians never do what is right, taxes are too much & never fair, jobs never pay enough or give enough recognition & school is definitely not fair & far too hard.  Complaints abound & one only needs to go as far as social media to get brought up-to-date on the top complaints of the day.  I remember being told if I didn’t like something I needed to do something to make a change & if not willing to make a change, then shut up & accept what is.  Before complaining, however, I have learned that I often do not know all the facts.  When I don’t agree with a decision I have found that I need to take time to do some digging & find out all that facts & all that was considered.  Indeed, at times I have had to admit I am wrong (but don’t tell my husband).

When you see someone being bullied, do you speak up & stop the bullies?  Do you let them know what they are doing or saying is wrong?  Do you quietly slink away when someone makes a racist remark, or tells a racist joke?  Are you sure that you don’t bully, discriminate, or display racism from time to time?  What would it take to make you speak up?  Have you considered that by not speaking up you are condoning wrong action & behaviour? 

Letters to organizations, to the editor of the local newspaper are ways to speak up & let your opinion be known.  In doing so make sure you have the facts.  Though protests are not as frequent as they were in the sixties, they still take place.  Once again, know the facts & don’t break the law unless you are ready to pay the price of the fine or time in jail.  Above all, avoid violence & destruction of property. 

One of the best ways to stand up for your beliefs is to volunteer.  Support an organization or group that has similar beliefs & passions as you.  This one is putting your time & money where your “mouth” is; don’t just talk about what is wrong, what should be done, get out & do

Step 10: Knowing yourself: values, beliefs, principles, biases.  What would make you do something wrong; something you do not believe is right, going against your values, beliefs, or principles?

Have you ever taken the time to think what it would take for you to do something that is completely against your beliefs, values, principles?  Would you be able to kill someone?  Under what circumstances?  Would you lie?  Under what circumstances?  Have you ever said “I could never do that?”  What might happen to make you do “that”?  Would you disown a child?  Of course not.  When someone does, do you know the whole story of why such drastic measures had to be taken?  Sometimes people have addictions that require their loved ones to not enable them; it is important to think what that might look like.  Sometimes there are health & safety issues that need to be considered. 

In a life or death situation would you lie to save your life or the life of another?  A common point of discussion in the media these days is physician assisted death.  As with abortion there are many opinions.  And, there may not be a right or wrong answer.  These are decisions, that regardless of who is in the unenviable position of making the decision, is in a tough place. 

Anything we do affects everyone.  Consider that statement as you make your decisions, big & small.  We are merely a small strand in the web of this & other universe, of all existence.  Whatever happens to that strand will affect the strength & integrity of the web & the existence of others.